If you’re a mom, chances are you MAY be familiar with the concept of boundaries.
Although, I am actually not as surprised to learn that many people grew up without really knowing much about boundaries and how to best implement them.
In case that is you, let’s start defining what a boundary is!
A BOUNDARY is simply a line that you draw in the sand, so to speak, that delineates what you will and will not tolerate. For example, you may have a boundary with your kids that says you will not tolerate hitting. Or, you may have a boundary with your spouse that says you need at least 30 minutes of alone time every day.
One way that I define a boundary is that if you feel “icky” or unsettled, then a boundary has been crossed. Likely, it was not set or clear to even know that would be ok or not.
The thing about boundaries is that they are incredibly powerful. Not only do they help to keep us safe and healthy, but they also help to maintain our relationships. After all, it’s hard to be close to someone if we don’t feel like we can be ourselves around them. So today, let’s talk about the power of boundaries and how they can help us to achieve mental wellness.
Why Boundaries are Important
One of the main reasons why boundaries are so important is because they help us to stay healthy both physically and emotionally. For example, let’s say you have a boundary with your boss that says you will not work more than 40 hours per week. This boundary ensures that you have time for your family and friends, time to pursue your hobbies, and time to take care of yourself. Without this boundary, it would be all too easy to get caught up in work and neglect the other important areas of your life.
Another reason why boundaries are important is because they help us to nurture our relationships. Think about it—would you rather be friends with someone who is always available 24/7 or someone who has healthy boundaries? Chances are, you would rather be friends with someone who has healthy boundaries because they respect your time and space. And when we feel respected by others, we are more likely to feel close to them.
Finally, boundaries are important because they help us to achieve mental wellness. When we have clear boundaries, we know our limits and we are less likely to put ourselves in situations that are harmful or stressful. This can go a long way in reducing anxiety and promoting peace of mind.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or just plain exhausted, it may be time to set some boundaries. Boundaries are powerful tools that can help us to stay healthy physically and emotionally while also nurturing our relationships. So don’t be afraid to set some limits—your mental wellness will thank you for it!